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Question of the Week
Week of 08/06/07
Q: My wife says that I am one of the fastest apologizers she knows. She says the speed and repetition of my apologies voids the sincerity. She believes that when I say "I'm sorry" it is just to get out of a fight. I can't win. Any suggestions?
A: Become a great wordsmith. Find new words and ways to say "I'm sorry."
When you use the right words, loving words, you change the atmosphere of your relationship. Proverbs says, "Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones (Proverbs 16:24).
Put some thought into your apology. Be specific. Instead of a simple "I'm sorry," make it more of a complete sentence. "I'm sorry for snapping at you in the car earlier." "I'm sorry for being late again. I'm going to try harder to get home on time." "I'm sorry that I was an idiot earlier."
When you give the reason for your apology you communicate that you understand the frustration. The hidden marriage manual in every woman knows when the apology is given to claim the hurt or to simply smooth something over.
We all need to learn to settle accounts quickly and with clarity of thought.
Blessings!
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