Q: My dad and mom are no longer living and I still have a hard time forgiving them for divorcing when I was 11. I have held it in for my entire life and feel as though much of the grief in my own life is a direct result of the poor example set by my folks. How can I forgive dead parents and move on with my life?

A: Your question is a great start to recovery. You need to move on and no longer blame your mom and dad for shortcomings in your life.

Paul said in Romans 12: "Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. ¹⁸If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone" (17-18).

It is no longer possible for you to be face to face with your mom and dad, but you can still forgive them. Not for their sake, but for yours. You need to rid your body of the poison you have been drinking called bitterness and resentment. The verse says, "As far as it depends on you." The issue of forgiveness is at the core of personal responsibility. Your anger and unforgiveness towards your mom and dad has held you back. Your victim's approach to life has thwarted God's best for you.

Release the hurt. Release the past. Once you turn this over to the Lord, you will then be able to live at peace with everyone. You will no longer be held hostage or powerless in life. You will change once you begin to resolve your anger.

Your best days are ahead of you. Learn from this and helps others to keep from drinking that poison of unresolved anger.

Blessings!

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